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Educating a Baby to Develop into an 'English Gentleman' – Is It Worth the Money?

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The company responsible for the listing explains that what looks like "extravagance or peculiarity" is in fact "deliberate commitment in early instruction".

"A family located in North London is looking for an extraordinary and skilled instructor to guide their youngest child on his first steps to growing into an English gentleman."

Looking at this advertisement, you might naturally miss the term "initial stages" as simple an expression.

Yet, it could be the most significant part of this unique position posting, as it seeks to hire a teacher for a one-year-old.

Hundreds of responses have since been received since the unidentified family published their search for the £180k-a-year tutor, who has to be "an exceptional individual".

During the past few weeks, the listing has attracted interest throughout the media, with several asking why?

Forward-Thinking Method

A tutoring expert, head and founder of an education consultancy, which is assisting the family in their quest, said that notwithstanding early scepticism, he viewed the idea "forward-looking", and "progressive".

When he consulted the family, he noted they understood the atypical character of their demand, and how young their son is.

But, they stated that they "preferred not to postpone any longer" to hire a tutor, as they had postponed until their older child was five, and by that age "cultural bias had by then become established".

What precisely did the family refer to by "cultural leaning"?

It's "everything", he replied. "The way you eat, the manner you speak".

He stated the firstborn had picked up "really subtle, non-verbal cues" from the family, and had taken on their cultural habits. The family informed the consultant they wished to avoid history to repeat itself with their younger child.

The strategy: To hire a UK tutor, who needs to speak with RP, to guide the baby right from the beginning.

Tutoring discussion
The education firm claim the listing has initiated a wider discussion about how families view schooling, elitism and the role of home and culture in education.

Natural Absorption

"A great deal of the learning at the start here is kind of acquired indirectly," said Adam.

It's via this osmosis that the family are expecting the child will pick up the UK customs they want to impart.

He explained the tutor must be someone who attended "the appropriate educational institutions – the same kinds of schools as the family aspire to send their son to".

"The tutor just has to be the right kind of person, they'll be carrying out things they aren't even aware they're doing, effortlessly," he said.

Money No Object

The family informed Adam the chosen tutor should ideally also have understanding of or interest in horse riding, winter sports, artistic pursuits and musical activities so as to inspire the child in a diverse set of hobbies.

More than that though, he explained the family desired the tutor to enrol the child on a selection of lessons so the child would be "pony-riding and starting an musical instrument by the time they are about three years old".

In the family's minds, helping their son grow into a "British gentleman" will bring about success and open doors.

"Taking into account the advantages and disadvantages of that, because it's definitely a status symbol," he notes.

But, despite all this tutelage in "English culture", might the child pick up what is termed cultural bias from the multicultural family he resides with regardless?

"Absolutely", replied he. "The parents know this might not succeed, but they've merely embraced the perspective of, 'we should try and let's go as early as we can', because the expense of it is not a concern," he explained.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

Several in the tutoring industry who express these concerns.

Another CEO, chief executive of Blue Education, who also offer private tutors, stated that "the process of embracing two identities, or indeed, forming one's identity, is something that must be experienced personally, not engineered."

Peter wrote that he had moved from China to the UK at the period of childhood, and had been raised knowing and living two backgrounds. He went on to learn at a prestigious UK institution.

Peter Cui portrait
Peter Cui was the pioneer born in the People's Republic of China to be selected to the post of Finance Head of the Cambridge Union.

"The notion that an individual can serve as a living vessel of English culture, a person who can possibly impart the characteristics of a English gentleman upon a infant child, appears optimistic and unrealistic," he wrote.

"Based on my background, employing a distinctly UK tutor from infancy will does not necessarily create the result they hope for.

"I never had such a tutor, and however I have been fortunate enough to experience several of the situations they aspire for their son."

He stated: "The reality is, self-identity can not be dictated from the outside influences; it must be embraced, and it must be internally driven."

Acquiring Englishness

Naturally, English culture is something Adam believes can be taught – and sold.

"I think the situation that the global community holds us in this respect is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

The writer

Stephanie Austin

An art historian and curator passionate about preserving and sharing the cultural treasures of Italy's iconic destinations.

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